- As soon as you learn of the loss, get in touch; it is never too late to offer concern and support
- Silence is OK; there is comfort in quiet company.
- Instead of clichés that might minimize the loss, simply say “I’m sorry” or “How can I help?”
- Be accepting of your friend’s feelings whatever they may be
- Try not to be upset or uncomfortable if your friend cries. Tears can be healing.
- Do not be afraid to offer a hug.
- Try to plan activities you can do together. If one offer is declined, do not be hurt and do not give up.
- Be patient; grief is an individual process and resolution come at different times for different people
Pet Loss Support Resources
The American Society for the Prevention of Cruelty to Animals
Stephanie LaFarge, Ph.D
(800) 946-4646 pin# 140-7211 and leave your number
Iams Pet Loss Support Resource Center
Iowa State University Veterinarian Students
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